Afraid to fall

Oftentimes I wonder, Why do people try not to fall in love eventhough there is someone out there waiting for them, silently praying to be loved back? Let’s talk about some of the reasons, why.

Love comes everywhere, it’s either love for family, love for friends and love for your partner. Love is something that we feel towards others, but for some reasons others don’t want to express themselves, beacuse they’re afraid, afraid that what happened before will happen again, the failure, the disappointments, the agony will find it’s way again to ruin your building trust for someone who’s willing to be with you.

Personally, I ain’t willing to at the age of 21, I refuse to acknowledge guys who’ willing to court and be my partner. Why? Because I have many reasons to do so. Starting with Afraid to get into relationship that aren’t real, aren’t real because It might be someone who just want to get my attention but not me, the real me. I want a partner who will love my whole being not just what is seen from me which is basically my look, I want it deeper. Second thing is the Trust Issues, i knew that it’s not new for some of you here about trust issues when it comes to relationship, some even got traumatized. Trust Issues are hard to build for someone who’s been through painful break ups, so simple advice from me to you “Be patient with people like us, we appreciate you being there for us but please wait patiently until we heal and fully ready to be with someone again”. Afraid to love because I don’t want my heart to break into pieces once more, however I also new that heart break will lead you to where you really be, maybe God had sent you the pain, the wrong person for you to learn and be brave and smarter in choosing your future patner if you don’t want to feel the pain and agony of being left alone again. He’s preparing you for something nicer and much beautiful love story that’s meant to make you the happiest. I truly believe that there is always a rainbow after the rain, simply means fail first, struggle first and soon you’re hardships will be paid off. You’re pain will soon turn into cloud of happiness.

But, the real reason of me not wanting to fall in love and have a boyfriend for now, is because it’s nice to be single. I am busy building myself, preparing myself for what is meant for me, while waiting for it, I can freely do what I want without hesitation.

College Friends

Friends are someone who we want to be with in times of hardships after our family. They can be your wall when your about to breakdown and can be your partner in crimes and joy. How lucky can you get when you build friends in college? College is life but friends is lifer.

I am a Third year college student and I am taking up Bachelor’s Degree of Secondary Eductaion Major in Mathematics. Yes, Mathematics and as you knew I am not really good at math, so it’s a bit hard for me to cope up in class. But all my struggles and setbacks were drowned and dig to hell because i have friends to lean on whenever i need help, whenever I don’t understand something about the lesson they educate me more about it.

However, our friendship doesn’t stop there it goes deeper and deeper as we deal with each other each time of the day. Through Struggles and laughters we’re together. I actually have a scenario where in one of my friend ask me if i already did the requirements we’re required to pass and I said I still don’t and then he said same and then we laugh at each other (i knew it’s not a good thing not to pass requirement though). It’s so good to have somebody in dealing with everything you don’t need to feel alone because they got your back. Friends are Family.

To my college friends. Thank you for everything Thank you for being there with me always even if I am so hard to deal with because of my not so good attitude towards others but still you accepted me, uplifted me and cheered for me. You all made me feel loved and acknowledge which my father failed to do so. With that I promise to be a good friend to all of you no matter what i will not fail you all. I will reciprocate the love and support you’ve all given me. I love you and I really really missed you all! Keep safe always and Godbless! We’ll see each other the soonest! Fighting! Together we will receive our Diploma and will shout together, WE DID IT! 💕

Life in a Rice field

“Magtanim ay di Biro” this statement is the real definition of life in the ricefield. I’ve been doing it for almost a month or so. Not just for experience , lesson but also for the living, to earn money as you can see during the pandemic it’s hard to earn penny. That’s why i tried planting rice on the field and i will tell you my story.

At Five o’clock in the morning you should be awke and prepare foods and clothes you have to wear, it’s just like preparing for school also but it’s not. After prrparing all the stuff that I need I am ready to go. Most places of rice field are across mountains so you still need to walk to get there. At exactly 7:30 the agony begins. All of us will plant, bow are head and then plant plant plant plant and plant, until 9:00 or 9:30 your choice because it’s sanack time. We’re given 10 mins or so to finish our food, and then we’ll start again. Can you imagine yourself? Exposed in a broad daylight working? It was hard and really tiring but you have no choice? It continues until 11:30 am. Time for lunch, then come back at 1:00 pm in the afternoon. This time of the day is the hottest it can actually burn your skin, the sweat are falling down our faces but what can we do it’s our job and our time is sold to the owner of the farm so we have to keep doing what we should do. The agony will only stop when the clock hits 4:30 pm. It’s all done whether it is finished or not.

Lessons I have learned doing the stuff is that it’s hard to earn money, so we have to be very thrifty at all times do not spend your money on things that you don’t really need or simply spend your money wisely use it for necessity not for luxury. It also thought me to be patient and hardworking in order to get what you want. Sweat for it, make time for it and do not give up on it no matter how much you wanted to stop? Keep on going and moving forward and you’ll be shock you already have what you wanted.

What does electric interruption made me realized

We live in a time were in light can be seen at night by just turning on the off and on button. It’s easy and accessible isn’t it? Within a second you can see what’s in the dark, but what if? There is no electricity at all? No phones, no laptops, no light, no signal and many more? How are you going to deal with it? Will it be a good thing ? Or bad?

Since typhoon ulysses landed here on philippines last Nov 12 2020, the electricity got interrupted from all over the places that is severely damaged including our place which is Tarlac. With this situation I have done much more than i have been doing before the electricity got interrupted. I’ve got a lot of time doing household chores, requirements and quality time with my siblings. I realized that electricity is one of the things that made me lazier because there is electricity i have all the time and access to my gadgets which is very alarming because I’ve been addicted to it lately to the point that I’m not even helping in the chores anymore, It is laso very alarming to my health because I am exposed too much to gadgets i’m afraid my eyesight could be affected so electricity interruption is a big help for me that time.

No electricity means no light, but that doesn’t made us live in the dark for two weeks because we used candles to bring small amount of light in our house. It’s funny that i actually enjoyed the night more with the candle light than light from the bulb. Thinking about how peaceful and simple life is without electricity. No distractions from resting early at night. Imagine? Sleeping early at night at peace so we can fulfill 8 hours and more hours of sleep how beautiful and healthy that is? It’s very satisfactory. But there is also a bad side that it caused us.

Electricity interruption also is a threat to my study because we are online learning we should have access to our phones and internet, in order to study modules and lesson we need to access the internet but how is that possible if the cell sites are down. It’s a good thing that the school gave considerations for students and faculties to recover after the typhoon.

Step Siblings

Only child wants to have siblings to play and have fun with. But what if they aren’t full blood as yours? What if they’re just your step siblings? How are you going to deal with it? Will you accept it or not?

Let’s start with Cons or the negative sides of having such. First one is that the attention of your parents aren’t fully yours anymore, it will definitely get divided and sometimes your actually being left out. It’s frustrating isn’t it? You’re the original son/daughter but it seems like your the one begging for attention. Second you always have to adjust especially if you’re the eldest you have to be patient and understanding even if it’s like you’re going to burst in hatred. You have to keep calm because you’re mom will get mad at you when you did something to them. Lastly, responsibility instead of enjoying yourself alone you are task to be a nanny to your siblings and took care of them whenever your parents are not around.

Having siblings is like having bestfriend, you grow up and get comfortable with each other. It makes me so happy whenever they obey me and respect me as their older sister. I feel love even if we’re only half blood related. Some scenarios they don’t accept their step sibling because they see it as a threat and competition but for me I have been used yo loving them because we share the same mother and we love her so in order to make her happy we became one. We are responsible to make our mother be proud of us three.

A Mother’s Love


Mother knows best. Purest Love a person can have with one’s existence is a Mother’s Love. For no matter what you do they will always be there when you need them the most. How lucky I am for having my mom even without my biological father ?

My mother was devastated when my father left us and never came back. I was just a naive little girl back then who do not know anything about separation. I saw how my mother cried and suffered raising a daughter alone. She spend years of moving on by being maid on someone else household and at the same time providing my needs in school, my daily expenses and all, Alone.

To tell you a brief summary of our story, Here it goes. I grew up with my grandparents they provide me the love and care my mom can’t do for she is doing everything to provide for me and my needs. She stop working when I’m about to graduate in my primary years, because she met someone whom she thinks she will be with for the rest of her life,My Stepfather. At first I can’t believe that my mom will actually let me deal with a stranger at home but as time past by, I’ve learned to accept the fact that my mom needs a partner in facing the struggles in our lives.

Fast Forward, In my College years I knew that I can’t really afford to go school but due to my desire on becoming a degree holder my mom tried everything to let me go to school even if it means hell to her. How can i say hell? Because she’s just borrowing money to our neighborhood just to give me pocket money for school and i saw how she tried to have a thick face just to do it and everything is for me, for my future. I saw how she struggled so much for the life I had right now. She’s been planting on the rice field under the sun almost everyday just to earn money for almost three years now, I couldn’t imagine how she bears to be under the sun for 8 straight hours, which is very overwhelming for me, and these things actually made me more determined to achieve my dreams and goals in life.

My mom isn’t with me when I grew up but I still felt the love and the support from her. I felt pity for her but this is the only way for us to be lift from poverty and I promise to do everything to pay back each and every sweat of her sacrifices for me.

From these experiences, I’ve learned that no matter how hard the problem is that our mother is facing they will never give us the reason to give up, Instead they will make you be inspired to strive for more, to do more, and be more than what we can do. It’s a lesson that a person should learn about. A lesson that says, we must not do the same mistake our parents have done in their lives. It’s actually like a piece of advice I will carry throught out my whole life.

Thoughts of a daughter who’s been left by her biological father.

Lonely girl from facebook.com

It’s such a blessing and good to know that a friend of yours has a good relationship with her family, a very good and complete family. At times, I wonder ? How does it feels like to be part of that complete family?

I am a 21 year-old lady who haven’t have any contact with my biological father for almost 16 years now, during that 16 years of struggling mentally and socially. There’s no way my dad left my mind, he’s always the one I am blaming for why everything that has happen to me happened to me. All my setbacks, failures and not being able to have progress was all his fault for not staying beside me. There’s no one who will lift me up when I’m down and almost giving up, there’s no tap on my shoulder whenever i need somebody to lean on, and most especially there’s no congratulatory hugs and kisses for me when I do something great in school or anything.

It was hard to deny that I feel envious whenever my friends was picked up by their father to go home. I wished I also had someone like theirs. I wished I also had someone who’s there whenever I need something for school or even just a single advice that would lift my spirit up in times I’m about to break down. These thoughts also made me do things I shouldn’t have done, because of to much longing and sadness, I’m trying to seek a fathers love on guys whom I think can replace my father’s figure but I ended up getting fooled and all. I just wanna feel the sense of belongingness, I just wanna feel that someone owns me, that someone is scared to loose someone like me but they all make me feel like a nobody, a trash. Trash that’s ready to get into the trashbin for it has no use and purpose anymore.

However, growing up as sign of maturity I guess I’ve realized a lot. I thought that God has purposedly given me this path to walk through because he’s preparing me for something bigger, something I have to face bravely. Like it was a way of telling to me become strong and durable in any challenges he’s gonna give me, to have faith and to do not fear because all the things that’s happening, the agony of not being able to be with my father for the longest time will be payed off the soonest.

The only thing I would promise my future kids is to not let anything that has happened to me happen to them. Will not make them loose their father like mine. I will make their life colorful and very differebt to what i have experienced.

Breakfast at my House

During the week we’re often walking out the door with a coffee in one hand and slice of toast in the other, but on weekends breakfast is never rushed. It’s a late affair, sometimes spilling over to lunch, with lots of reading and chatter in between courses of fruits, poached eggs, honey and toast. One of our favorite things we like to serve when friends are visiting are buckwheat blueberry pancakes.

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